Modern Era: What’s Wrong With Becoming Yourself

We used to see someone else on Instagram and other social media. All of them have a great life, and their posts show where they holiday or vacation. It was pretty interesting to see, but do you really know what is more interesting?

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What is happening in this modern era?

People judge us easily for who we are. Sometimes we make one mistake, and people judge us entirely. People judge others from one perspective. Once your image is tarnished, it will be hard to recover. People often close their other perspectives and refuse to see from another perspective. When we are unprepared or in poor condition, mistakes can occur. Rarely do people make mistakes on purpose. There’s always a cause for every result.

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The Reason for not becoming ourselves

We tend to compare our lives with other people. We love to see someone have a great achievement in their life, and we dream of ourselves achieving the same or even greater achievement. Well, it is okay to do, but the more you try to achieve something based on other people, the further you are from becoming yourself. Becoming yourself is now a problem because people sometimes don’t like us for who we are.

They love how we always say yes to them.

They love to control us according to their own desires.

They love it when we do something on an “okay” level.

Vice versa, they don’t like other people becoming themselves because their own life is not based on their own desire. So, in order to fulfill their jealousy, they drag other people down to the same level as them. That’s why it’s hard for people to make a move in their business. That’s why it’s hard for people to become content creators they really like. That’s why it’s hard for people to have their really desired job.

There were a variety of other factors that influenced their lives. Even so, the main problem is sometimes located within themselves. We all have missions to do. We all have our own task. So, start finding yours and give the best of you!

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The Mistaken Concept of Becoming Yourself

Becoming yourself is pretty much easier to say than do. Even so, it’s worth it to do it because it might change your entire life! You need to know that becoming ourselves does not mean tolerating your bad habits. You can read my article to learn how to break bad habits.

Tolerating your arrogance, temperament, or selfishness is not being yourself. We are human beings that need to improve every day. We need to strive to become better every day. We learn from our mistakes, eliminating bad habits and building good ones in our lives.

Becoming yourself means doing what you love in order to make the world a better place. Even though chaos in this world can’t be eliminated entirely, at least you can make yourself better by not becoming part of the chaos in this world. What are the examples of becoming ourselves? 

• Doing the things you always wanted to do!
• Saying “no” to things you don’t want to do!
• Expressing yourself in a good way!
• Start living in the present moment!

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How To Become Yourself In This Modern Era

Always start small! I love the principle of starting small. We are not superhumans who can change our lives overnight. People overestimate the power of one year and underestimate the power of ten years. If you want to become yourself, start small! These are the steps you can take to become yourself, from easy to hard:

1. Start saying “no.”
2. Do the things you want in small amounts.
3. Quit organizations or communities that are uncomfortable for you!
4. Find a better friend. There’s always someone who wants to support you for who you are.
5. Pursue the job you’ve always wanted.

Remember, all of those are considered in relation to how the problems appear. You better not say “no” to someone who urgently needs your help. It’s better to not quit organizations or communities that are uncomfortable for you but make you a better person. You better not quit your job, but your financial situation is not stable enough. It’s a wise decision to really see the positives and negatives of your choices.

At the end, no matter what era you are in, you can always become yourself. By starting small, you can increase your confidence in becoming yourself. It’s always hard at the start, but hard only comes at the start. Now, find yourself, find your own voice, and make the world a better place!

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I am Kevin Nokia, and I hope that from this article we can learn together and improve together. I hope you guys can give me criticism and suggestions to improve my writing. 

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