The Eyeglasses Of Resentment

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I got this topic idea from my lecturer this morning. I just said that I’m a problem-maker, and I know that I’m not. Well, I cannot control someone else, but I see something interesting in this. I learned something new, and this is what I’m going to talk about in this article.

So, I was talking with my friend in a class. My lecturer realized it and became upset about it. He said that I’m a problem-maker, full of arrogance, and disrespectful. Well, we just started the class, and it’s not even five minutes; he scolded me in front of everybody in the class. I know it’s wrong to talk in class while the lecturer is talking. The problem is that he scolded me subjectively.

I was in his choir for about two years before leaving because the practice schedule was inconvenient for me. We practice almost every day, morning and night. I gave him a lot of time and energy for his choir ambitions. Well, he does trust me and love me while I’m in the choir. After I left, he said that I was a betrayer. Well, it’s kind of funny to hear that from a 40-year-old man who has a child.

He brags about this choir thingy in the class. He said that I’m a problem-maker not only in the class but in the choir too. Well, it’s my decision to leave or stay in the choir; why do you have to bring this up? So, I can see that he scolded me subjectively.

If you ask me, what response did I give?

Well, nothing. My grade depends on him. I cannot do much about it. What I do will cause me a problem. So, I better stay quiet and play it safe because he's wearing

The Eyeglasses Of Resentment.

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Well, what are these glasses?

I just named it while I was at the class. I called it "eyeglasses of resentment." It’s how people see someone with resentment. They always see someone from one perspective, and that perspective is their own. You cannot do much about them except avoid them. They will always be looking for mistakes and failures from you.

Before we jump into this new eyeglasses, we need to know what resentment is.

What is resentment?

According to WebMD.com, resentment describes a negative emotional reaction to being mistreated. There is no one cause of resentment, but most cases involve an underlying sense of being mistreated or wronged by another person.

You can see from my story that my lecturer really felt resentment in his heart. He brags about the problem that was in the class two months ago — where I left the choir — in the class, which is not related to the problem that I have given.

So, what’s wrong with using these eyeglasses?

Eyeglasses of resentment really give you a narrow perspective of things, not just a particular incident but people too. This eyeglass of resentment can really see things through events, people, and behavior. It doesn’t only harm other people; it harms the user too. It makes them unhappy and unpleasant because what they focus on is resentment.

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The Difference With Hatred

According to berkeleywellbeing.com, The difference between resentment and hate is that resentment is usually tied to a specific circumstance. You hate somebody in general, but you resent them for a particular event.

People with resentment behave quite annoyingly. They look down on people that they resent, and they judge rapidly without analyzing it from a different perspective. They don’t want to understand other people perspective. They only want to be understood from their own perspective.

If you realize that you are using eyeglasses of resentment, try to take a step back and put the glasses down. Fight or flight is not the best solution for all of your problems. Compassion and love are. It’s not about showing them who is better. It’s about showing them who is much more mature in the character.

“Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

— Matthew 5:44

“If you greet only your brothers, what more are you doing than others? Do not even the Gentiles do the same?”

— Matthew 5:47

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Practical Tips That You Can Use For Success!

If you are the one who use the eyeglasses of resentment,

1. Take a step back.
2. Put the eyeglasses down
3. See from different perspective

If someone else is the one who use the eyeglasses of resentment,

1. Understand them for being resentful
2. Set boundaries
3. Pray for them.

If you did the same to people who were being resentful, you are not different from them. So, to wrap this up,

Put the glasses down, you are much more valuable without those glasses!

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I am Kevin Nokia, and I hope that from this article we can learn together and improve together. I hope you guys can give me criticism and suggestions to improve my writing. 

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